8 Signs You May Have a Codependent Parent | WeHaveKids
"A parent who doesn't have the emotional capacity to see a child's needs as important" is a toxic parent, Lundquist explains. "This can play out. Most codependent relationships are between a parent and child. from their children that is unhealthy and unnatural, intended to make up for. In some cases, however, a mother's relationship with an adult son or not easy for either parent or child to let go of that bond,” Tina B. Tessina.
Yeah well, i grew up wit no family but my mom. Mom kinda disappears, she's in "All about me" mode. Now shes clubbing 4 nights a wk. I was homeless as a teenager, now everything she couldn't provide for me as a CHILD, im expected too do for a 50yr old?!?
Codependant parents u are breaking your children down, it sucks We owe u nothing, we didn't ask to be here. How are we ever suppose to get our lives together constantly dealing with the issues from yours? Signed - A woman ready to live out her own purpose in life Brandy 3 months ago I have a codependent mother that has always leaned on me.
As a child I lived with my mom and my alcoholic father. My dad was verbally abusive to my brother and mother but so much to me. However, I was molested by my father.
My mother found out about the molesting years after it ended but decided to do nothing about it. I was diagnosed with Manic Depressant Disorder at the age of 16 but always knew how to function despite the challenges I faced.
My mother did nothing to help me through any of the challenges but always wanted me to be there for her emotionally. I remember the codependency being as bad as me being responsible for laying out clothes for her whenever there was something outside of work that she needed to do.
She always depended on me to tell her what her next move was. Fast forward to adulthood.
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I am 35 years old, married for 13 years and have 4 beautiful children with one on the way. My mother has lived with me several times and each time expected to not have to help out financially. I moved out of my home state about 5 years ago leaving my mother behind. Prior to moving my mother lived with me but was able to move in with a friend. Two years into my move my mother ask to move out of state with me to help with child care and give me an opportunity to get my business up and running.
She agreed to get her won place within a year but she has now been living with us for 3 years. She has to be told to clean and help out and only help financially when asked. She only helps with care for my children when asked and never goes anywhere unless I go with her. I am struggling mentally at this point because I feel unappreciated and used, How do I get her to move out and live her own life?
Every time that I try to talk to her she cries and plays the victim. I can't take this anymore. Traci Mark 4 months ago My mother is a codependent parent who took advantage of me and ruined my life ad I know it.
Anon 5 months ago I had a codependent and mentally ill mother who committed suicide when I was My younger daughter suffers from anxiety and depression, I had to sell my house to pay tuition at a private school, spend down all my savings to support both girls in their same lifestyle after I finally divorced their father.
I am trying every day to turn away from the trauma of their emotional abuse, and be just a normal, happy, loving single parent My younger daughter suffers so much from anxiety and depression, and we are so enmeshed.
Laura Mekins 5 months ago Wow. This article is enlightening. Just a tidbit of information on me, my father was an alcoholic. Parents divorced when i was Lived with my unbearable mother, naturally tried to "fix" her life but failed.
Moved out when i was And have been financially taking care of my mother since I was Im sick of it. I love my mother but i now understand, sometimes we just have bad parents. We don't have an estranged relationship now. But she's only I want her to get a job and stop relying on my as her financial crutch.10 Signs You Might Have Toxic Parents
Is it too late to stop taking care of her? Sometimes, many times, i wish i had at least one real parent. She constantly reminds me that I owe her for being my mom and that my siblings and I are her only happiness.
This makes me angry with myself for not being better. Like for example I visited a childhood friend for their bday this past weekend who lives 2 hrs away in the same city as my older brother. We had to meet my brother halfway due to gas cost at 3: It was nice to vent and be heard for once.
Annoyed 6 months ago I have helped my mom for the last 30 years. I got tired of her always crying to me that I bought her a place to live. I let her know she needs to take care of her home yet she continues to ask me to pay for trees that fall, I paid for her to have better air condition and I've paid for her septic.
She always tries to guilt me so she doesn't have to pay. You lie to your mom to avoid disappointing her.
Honesty will help move the relationship forward. You rely on your mom for money. As an adult, you may encounter a period of unemployment or financial hardship that may force you to ask your mom or dad for money until you get back on your feet. This keeps you from being an autonomous adult.
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You allow her to handle your responsibilities. Physically and mentally capable adults should be able to do their own laundry, clean their own home and make their own doctor appointments and travel reservations. Your mom expects you to check in with her before you make a decision. Often, narcissistic or those with other personality disorders or mental illnesses, abusive, emotionally immature, and alcoholic or addicted parents are labeled as toxic.
15 Signs You Have Toxic Parents
Young children, even those with toxic parents, assume that their parents are typical. You realize that your parents are different. Toxic parents cause a lot of pain and lasting psychological problems for their children. The first step is to be aware of what it really means to have a toxic parent and recognize the particular ways that your parents are dysfunctional or emotionally unhealthy.
Signs you have a toxic parent Below are some of the common signs of a toxic parent. They fail to treat you with even a basic level of respect, courtesy, and kindness. Toxic parents often have difficulty controlling their emotions.
They want to tell you what to do, when to do it, and how to do it. Toxic parents always want to have the upper hand.
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Guilt and money are common ways they exert power and control. Or they might be passive-aggressive — using the silent treatment, snide comments said under their breath, or intentionally forgetting 6 Critical: